A True Boyfriend

Girls and young women often get deceived by their boyfriends, just because they do not understand what a true boyfriend is like. A true boyfriend will respect your body. He is considerate of your feelings. He won't take undue advantage of your weakness or circumstances. He won't trade Love and Friendship with carnal desire. He has pure feelings about you. He is driven only by Love. He'll Love you single-heartedly. He is satisfied with your presence and your true friendship. His moral integrity is impeccable.
     you can assuredly continue your relationship with such a person and even go further to choose him as your soul mate.

     And furthermore, if such a boyfriend is a God-fearing person, then you can rejoice and Thank God for having found the Modern " Tobias "-  Tobias was the son of Tobit. He was a man of integrity. His prayer: " And so I take my wife not for any lustful motive, but I do it in singleness of heart." [Tobit 8:7 ] - reflects his sound morality.
     Such a person will always remain true to your heart and will never defile your marriage bed. Most of the men fail to inculcate in them the uprightness of Tobias.
 
    In a word, a True boyfriend will always guard Friendship with a bond of Love.

Love and Respect

Let 'Love and Respect' be the proximity and the distance in your relationship.

If only young men/women reconcile with God

In the beginning, when God created Adam and Eve, they were ignorant of their self. Their identity was God. Though they were made of flesh and blood, the state of their being was pure.Though they were naked, they were perfectly comfortable with their nakedness, as yet lust was unknown to them.
    But when they ate of the forbidden fruit ( fruit of the knowledge of good and evil ) the state of their body  entirely transformed. They became aware of their self ; they became vulnerable to evil; mortality entered their body. They became ashamed of their nakedness and lust became known to them.
   Man broke with God through his disobedience. And life became a difficult exercise of free will. The more he failed in choosing good from evil ,of his own free will, the more he became vulnerable to sin. Through life of sin, man ( both man and woman ) lost respect for God and HIS creation.

   Thanks be to God for the gift of his Beloved son, our Lord Jesus Christ, Grace came to save us from the slavery of sin.

   In today's world we see men and women complaining against each other- men complain about women's  *indecency in dressing; while women complain about men's lewdness and lack of self-control. The lack of disrespect for each other, is the result of our unfaithfulness to God. In love of God, dignity of mankind and respect for each other is restored. People need to return back to the life of innocence. Only then, the sinful play of Herod ( bad boys; immoral men; perpetrators) , Herodias ( bad girls; immodest women; adulteress ) and Innocent 'John the Baptist' ( good boys/good girls; upright men/women, who  suffer at the cost of Herod and Herodias) will come to an end.

   Only in the love of God, young girls/women will learn to adorn themselves modestly and men will learn to truly love women and treat them with dignity.






* through the original sin, lust entered our being. It is not the body that is distracting , but the lust which dwells in our being, that manipulates our behavior. The 'Tempter' shrewdly acts on our lust, when we are weak in our faith in God and totally devoid of God. The reason, why many youngsters fall into sin and disrespect each others bodies, is because they lack the grace of God, to keep away from sin and they lack the strength of good conscience. We make ourselves puppets in the hands of the 'Tempter', to be manipulated and defiled, owing to our lack of faith in God and good relationship with God. Instead of blaming each other's weakness, it is only prudent to reconcile with God. This is the only solution for the end of " rape culture ".


I would expect young boys/men to take the first step in reconciling themselves with God. Without this, you can't help yourself to be called as " lustful men ".

     And I'll also request young girls/women to keep away from the natural instinct of Eve ( seeking vanity). It was Eve, who first tasted the forbidden fruit and led mankind to sin . And now, those who follow her (Eve ) instincts, taste every kind of vanity. In any case, you don't want yourself to be termed as " brazen ". Do you?

I Love You !

Love finds its expression in Trust and Respect.
Passion finds its expression in desire and disrespect.

( The very first expression of Love gives the assurance of   Trustworthiness and Respect for the person- and Respect for God. Passion disguises itself as " True Love " and makes haste towards immodesty and dissolution. )

Boyfriend-Girlfriend

The youthful relationship is particularly meant to know each Other well- emotionally, psychologically and spiritually- how each person feels, thinks and understands. It helps to know each Others' differences- to know each Others' strengths. Boyfriend-Girlfriend type of relationship is an experimental ground to practice Trust; Purity and  Commitment in relationship. A good healthy relationship will keep  every kind of youthful immorality away and thus avoid the 'youthful mess' (Abortions; unwanted pregnancies; use of Contraceptives; break-ups etc.)
       The beauty of this relationship is- you are living precious moments of your life with someone you love and someone you long to be with. An upright  relationship will make you into a Man and Woman- pleasing to God. Furthermore, it will eventually prepare a base for stable relationship in the future. Additionally, it will teach you to love and respect one another.

      Boyfriend-Girlfriend type of relationship is not meant to explore the physical side of your being. Indulging yourself in a tainted relationship, is a form of wickedness. And wickedness, is a sin which is abhorrent to God.